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Also some INFJ'S stare and are not listening. Some infj's stare becuase they were told they were told they look disinterested. Some infj's stare to intimidate on purpose its like a game for them of control. Some stare to truly concentrate. It depends on who is speaking. Not all INFJ'S are the same. As an infj, I would never steal. I know an infj who is so soft spoken....wise... gentle...respectful and then did some crazy things on my credit card to appear charitable to others WITH MY CREDIT CARD and then deflect and pretend she didnt know what was happening and denied everything in formally written very well thought out letter as if someone else would read it. I know another infj who is so stunted by life experience / culture / family background thinks shes super philosophical but misses the mark and isn't actually thorough maybe she's INFP but then she is INFJ. INFJ's have intense desire for truth, multiple layers of critical thinking, interest in moral rights human rights or humanity, philosophy, how the world works... and some INFJ's that I know to be infj and cannot be any other types don't think about this deeply as me at all. we are not all one and the same.

The last question was have you as an INFJ gone through trauma: I think everyone thinks everything in trauma now. I have friends who have been raped, did copious amounts of drugs and end up somewhere random, beaten up by their bf, died from spinal surgery and come back, few friends have their child die during labor or still born, have their bfs threaten to commit suicide and they did it, have their parents suddenly die out of no where, have been adopted, gave birth to a premature stillborn baby yet dont consider themselves traumatized nor do they live this life of solitude and are actually life of the party and live really fun and colorful lives. I think if INFJ's gone through these things would have this deep inner persistent echo chamber of wound internally in all that we do. Laugh and have fun with friends but sit with questioning life and everything behind everything, layers and feel so deeply and yet so many of my friends who have gone through extremely traumatic things almost don't have the same type of short or long term memory like INFJ's do... neither think or feel that deeply that they get over their "traumatic life events" so easily. So whatever someone considers trauma is to each their own. And how quickly someone totally recovers rather than hold it one by one their whole lives.... is each to their own personality type. people are born with personalities for sure you can see it in kids. and life experiences add to that personality already there and how they deal with everything according to personality. how they heal or don't heal. its a choice but heals to their own personality and course of life that happens for them.

Any other INFJ ever feel instantly comfortable and able to be yourself around someone? It disarms me when it happens but it’s glorious when it does. I’m curious why it happens with some people and not others and what personality type we might feel that way with.

Listening to an INFJ singing in my headphones now. Alanis. Kinda odd when these things coincidend. I will listen to this again. Another INFJ ghosted me recently. No idea why this happened. I thought we were getting along. He even gave me a computer with Ubuntu as the OS. Saw them two weeks ago, passed by me without making eye contact. Very odd. I am over the hurt now.

By being alive and having many opportunities to learn how to properly learn anything and end up stumble on the scientific way of learning, where we start by observing with a virgin, open and curious mind, we will heading to get more knowledge. The knowledge that we can share and compare with others regardless their beliefs, we enhance our own knowledge. While we are on the track of the scientific method to educate ourself, we will find an emerging truth of the subject of our curiosity and our research. Sooner or later, we'll end up getting the answers to our questions piece by piece.

Man would I love to talk to you for a while.. Its like your taking all the info out of my thoughts right now.. I crave this level of honesty and realness.. I have been in a relationship for over 15 years with an introvert... I don't know how since I am 100% opposite...

I am part of the group who enjoyed having friendships of the opposite sex, some of them moved into a romantic relationship. Others did not and remained friendships, I've had to sacrifice a number of those for my wife who saw things as I should have more male than female friends, which means I've lost some of those friendships who were very near and dear to me. But maybe it's a good thing, as much as I mourn the loss of those friendships alot of those people have really progressed in their relationships and I honestly don't think they even wonder about me anymore, i guess in a way I've kinda died to them.

Exactly people do worship the bible and somehow miss God. Just like a pharasee back in the day

Good point! Finding an actual follower of Jesus's teachings is rare. Yes, your right about how people worship but not listen I think many people use Paul's writings of salvation as the religion and ignore Christ's commands

Like the prodigal son...every person should step away from religion then move toward God directly when ready. Otherwise, it may take a lifetime to discover the relationship

INXJ here lol ! I feel confused.. for years I learned that I was INFJ , however as I got older I started to loss that spark and not feeling belonged or agreeing with the infj community , I’m on a healing journey from childhood trauma and ppl pleasing, I did some few tests and they all show me as an INTJ , I feel lost and I want to know if anyone had a similar experience .

Very interesting subject. There is not a YES and NO answer to this question. It depends on the situation, the people involved ..... You understand very well this subject ( most men don't understand it and generally think the good answer is NO without thinking twice about it ).

Im an infj and I love the Oprah & Gail friendship. I’m still looking for the Gail to my Oprah…. Someone who gets me! I pray the Lord sends me one genuine friend … no cattiness , no shade, no envy, just love , support, encouragement, a listening ear an all around good friend . And I’ll be the same to them.

Everyone seems to be fascinated by INFJ personality or either wanting to be one. But being one is always to have a feeling of being ‘an alien’ rarely feeling like you can connect with another on a meaningful, deeper level. People think they know you but it’s far from the truth. I have learned to see beauty in being and feeling different but damn I hope my kids will be a different personality type 😅 Even though I love you INFJs out there haha 🤍

It’s also due to the enviable pigment in your lips, the gay thing:) adds to the masculine softness

I am an infj and I was severely abused in every way and rejected by my parents who abused me. Some of my traits are natures way of protecting me

I think someone have to talk about being an infj parent of 2 ou 3 kids..! When you spoke about the fact number 1, the socialisation, omg when you have kids it's h24, personally it's the most exhausting part of my life. Are they some infj like me here? And how do you live, as a parent? 😂😅

I've never had a problem with losing friends over religion. Ireland is very... relaxed about religion. My family are Catholic and so is almost everyone I grew up with (though nowadays, most people here are atheist, or spiritual but not belonging to any religion). Nobody here is very religious or very strict about following a religion. I've never been judged for not believing what they believe, or treated differently when I first told people I have no religion. I haven't been to a church since I was 12, and nobody cared when I stopped going. I can't imagine someone having a problem with someone just for having different beliefs. I don't think that happens here. I've never met a person who goes to mass/church on a weekly basis. Or a Christian/Catholic who looks down on those who don't. I've also never met one who tries to convert others or force their beliefs on others. If you tell them you don't believe in that stuff, they'll just say "oh that's cool". Their religion isn't their identity.

1. Im pretty fast in learning physical skills, like parkour or driving car. 2. Beeing outdoors, climbing trees and riding bike, researching how to improve my performence and how to solve speziefic problems and finding tools for it like mbti. Oh fuck maybe im mistyped. This sounds way to much like high se

It's very frustrating if you are not well understood. Now it make sense why I feel like and they also feel like I do not fit in with how other crowds think

Definitely not. God has nothing to do with morals. Doing the right thing because you're told to, because you'll be rewarded if you do good, or punished if you do bad... That's not even good. Doing it because you're following a rule doesn't make you a good person. If you only do what is right because you'll be rewarded for it, that makes you LESS good in my opinion. That means you're saying you wouldn't be good if there was no punishment for being bad. You're still only serving yourself. I do the right thing because I believe it is right. I don't need a reason to be good. I do it because I care about people, because people matter. I recognise that every soul matters. That every life is as important as mine. I don't have any more or any less value than any other person, so why should my own personal needs come before anyone else's? I'm not going to knowingly do something that causes pain to another person. I don't need to be rewarded for doing what is right. I don't need fear of punishment to prevent me from doing harm. I do it because it's who I am, and what I believe. Logically speaking, this makes me *more* moral than those who do it only because they're told to - not less.

I appreciate the education on the dilemmas, though there seem to be a few subtle religious and political innuendos. I can move past those for the sake of the education

How do you explain someone that got healed from a deadly disease?

I am a former Christian turned atheist, although (sad that the assumption would be otherwise) I still am very fond of Jesus and have deep respect for him as a progressive moralist for his time. I just don’t see him as god anymore and don’t agree with everything he says.

Thank you - you hit a bullseye. No you are not alone. I can relate to everything you said.

About alpabet soup. That is, if a person cannot explain to a child the principle of operation of a quantum computer without using (or even using) special terms, he cannot be an expert in this field of activity? IMMEDIATELY, call all HRs.

To someone able to have a platonic close friendship, it probably sounds bad saying it can't be done. But I know for me - it can't be done. I fall for people.

Great video, earned a subscription. 55yo INFJ here and I feel seen! Am recently out of a relationship where we were so compatible on many surface things but I realise watching this there were many deeper disconnects. For eg, I would ask questions out of curiosity and getting to know him, and he later said he felt "interrogated." I wanted to keep deepening our emotional intimacy, he found that confronting and I think would have preferred to coast along. And the sexual intimacy thing was on point! This is all great knowledge for a future relationship.

Maybe religion plays a part on our cultural psyche? I wonder.

Can someone help me with careers that an INFJ can consider? As an INFJ, I just have this feeling that I want to do things when no one's watching, like being alone makes me feel more in control of my creativity. I don't want people watching or eyeing upon me. If you know what I mean... Is this same feeling with all INFJs?

Idk why ppl wanting to slap lsbels on ppl infg im just me. Im over it all

Wow. Just, wow.

Are INFJ sigma people?

I aspire to learn Instructional design somewhere soon...

6:40 Can it also be called "word salad" fallacy ?

Thank you! So so helpful. 🙏🏼

I dont set things right when i see people talk nonsensical stuff 😂😂😂 i think about how exhausting it is to get them to understand me and i just give up entirely on the thought.

Me an entp I like deep thinkers

you don't come off as gay at all... just a mature man.

Yep i agree the bible is ambiguous. You can interpret it however you want. That is why there is 45,000 denominations.

One time i was dating a pastors daughter as my first gf ever. Once her dad met me he wasnt impressed. He only wanted someone super on fire for Jesus and I wasnt gonna fake it. I served in the church but wont witness to strangers. That type of fire for Jesus. Within a week my gf after getting yelled at for dating me, all we did was hold hands, she told me she had a vision and God told her we werent spirtually compaible. I wasnt gonna argue with that. I realized I needed to move on asap. If God really told her that, why didnt God tell her before her pastor dad yelled at her? Answer, its all bullshit.

I’ve always found that I fluctuate between I/E-N-F/T-P and this description helped set things straight for me. I do think I’m and INFP because almost everything resonates except I due to my upbringing I had a hard time figuring out who I was and I WAS a chameleon to fit in. A part of that was taking up the hard sciences and I really love thinking and editing and writing but it does kind of leave me in this high stress, critical state. But after some soul searching I found that I am highly value driven underneath that rationale, spiritual (naturally inclined towards meditating and love Vedic astrology as a tool for self discovery). I have SO MANY IDEAS and I’m loud about them and my opinions but I almost never complete my projects and have a hard time committing (what I’m working on now) So maybe it was a bit backwards but I developed my inferior function first ? My best friend is an INFJ who struggles with people pleasing - she is so so so kind and empathetic but a bit personally reserved, more of a listener, and more concerned with social cohesion and fitting in. It was super interesting to hear the differences. Especially in the types of empathy. I’d say we are both empathetic (I’m a poet or at least support my local poetry community and she did psychology and is the pseudo counselour of the friend group) but I can sense that she really feels what others experience and is with them where as I am more interested in understanding what others feel and relating to them- if that makes sense

Love how you jumped into this video without an intro. Getting straight to the point! I had a type 3 friend who stopped talking to me out of no where. This video really helped me set and clarify boundaries with relationships in my life 🙂

There *IS* meaning in the unicerse. And we *ARE* all the energy of the universe, literally. That's what everything and everyone is made of. This energy is love, but it's also consciousness, and it's our souls. It's also what religions have called "God", and we are all a part of it. We all have our purpose here, and this physical world is only a very small part of our existence.

I still consider myself to be a Christian, but I recently stopped going to a church that i had just joined a year ago. I was thinking the same things you were about the actual act of helping people. This church has some community events, but usually just a week in summer, and a few days around Christmas. Sundays started to feel monotonous. The one thing that did it for me was one Sunday when one of the pastors insinuated that people should tithe even out of their poverty. This church sits on and owns a lot of land and that just felt like a crazy thing to say. That made me realize that this church was not about actually helping people as much as it was about helping itself. Any suggestions on how to really help outside of church? I have been thinking of going to hospice places to somehow help with those at the end of life. Not sure if that's a thing.

I love your discernment and thank you @clayarnall for giving language to the cognitive dissonance I felt but didn't have words for. It started me on a path. As a fellow INFJ I humbly offer you the perspective from this podcaster @findingthenarrative to give Christianity one more chance. To see it through a lens that speaks our language - pattern-recognition, intuition, equal emotion + logic. We are the visionaries that can see through the gaslighting of the Church and are the most equipped personality type to handle the demands (unconditional love), and reward (peace that passes all understanding) of a true Christian life. ua-cam.com/video/FmdHqStdJ6I/v-deo.htmlsi=xPcAYcd56lfTdPBr

I am an IFNJ but I don't like to date with another IFNK. I prefer to date a extrovert

Is it possible INTJ has learned to take in other people's feelings as input data?

I have come across this video, and I am in the exact issue in my life. I believe I have part of an answer as well. The difference for me is my female friendship came out of us actually did date for a couple of years, but that was about 10 years ago. A few years later, after we broke up. We started talking as friends. We are yes very good friends, but the beautiful lady I am in a relationship with today does have a lot of trouble with it. I feel she is very jealous of the situation. I swear to her all the time we are truly strictly just friends. I would not cheat. I was cheated on in my first marriage. I truly know what that feels like as well. Than You very much for making this video, it is a confusing issue in life today. It all comes down to trust, which is what every relationship has to have as a foundation for it to truly be something as special as it can be. I would trust another person in a reverse situation if they provided they were trustworthy. Times have changed, people need to accept the changes we all have caused today....

Thank you for this video - it helped me understand INFJs at a deeper level. When you said that INFJs like fixing problems quickly, I actually gasped because I grew up with only TJs in my family, and they hated that I (ENFP) wanted closure as quickly as possible. I found with my family members that they just wanted to say their piece but then pretend that the issue never happened which I dislike because I want to deal with the real issue so that we limit future misunderstandings. It's nice to hear that there are other types who want to try getting down to the core of why something is happening. However, I also understand why someone would want some space when dealing with an issue. I will "retreat" into introversion when I'm trying to figure out how I want to handle a situation, or I'll use that time to figure out how I feel about the issue or self-reflect ("Is this just a 'me' problem? Why do I feel so bad about this?" etc.). I think if you (whomever is reading this) has an issue with not getting closure quickly, 1. definitely look into anxious or fearful avoidant attachment styles and 2. set a boundary with the person (in advance of an argument) where you say, "Hey, I noticed you retreat when we argue, but that makes me spiral a bit. Can we both agree that I'll give you the space you need, but that we'll talk about the issue within a (insert reasonable time)?" By reasonable I mean to you, the other person, and to the situation. For example, if you're trying to figure out what to eat for the evening, and they can't make a decision, maybe say, "I'm cooking dinner at 6. Can you let me know what you want by 5:30?" But if it's something like, "Can you share your childhood trauma?" well, something like that could take a LONG time for someone to open up about because it's a major issue. And sometimes you have things that are both major AND urgent like, "We really need to make a decision on whether we're buying this house or not because there's already a bid on it. I know this is a big decision and we need to think this through, but we only have tonight to figure this out. Can we make it a priority to not do anything this evening so that we can talk about this?" An open partner will either agree to your timeline or work with you to compromise on a time that works best for both of you and the situation. Or you can do what my (I think) INFJ friend did: I was dealing with a personal issue and wasn't my normal self. He would ask me how I was doing every day and I'd respond "fine" with a smile because I didn't want to burden him with my feelings. I could tell he didn't believe me and I felt bad for not telling him the whole truth, but I wanted to figure out how I felt about the situation before talking with him about it. Eventually (about a week later) he asked me how I was, and I was able to finally admit that I wasn't doing okay. He said he figured as much, but that he wanted to give me the space to figure myself out first. He said, "I knew you'd tell me what was going on when you were ready." I really appreciated that he was trying to be considerate despite obviously being concerned. I like that he kept letting me (subtly) know he was worried and that he was open to listening if I needed it WITHOUT hounding me about it (which would make me feel worse). I will say that if it had been someone else, then I wouldn't have said anything and kept my troubles to myself; but because we had a history of trust, I felt comfortable that he wasn't going to judge me if I came to him.